Both effective but both used for completely different reasons, resulting in a completely different reaction and or emotion.
During this post I am planning on comparing my opinions and feelings in regards to both punishment and play spankings.
In my opinion I find the best punishment spanking is done with a bare hand, against a bare/underwear covered behind. With the sub across the doms lap, a set number of spankings will be announced. There will be no warm up, and the sub must count the number of spanks while the dom administers them.
This is not a turn on for me personally, nor is it enjoyable.
I find that punishment spankings if done correctly can be very effective. Being laid across someones lap in a compromising position can bring me back down a notch. It reminds me of my place and that I am not to think above my dom. It can also aid in my little space a lot, reminding me of how small I am in comparison.
Should start with a warm up readying the subs behind making it a more enjoyable and prolonged experience. I enjoy play to be done with an arrangement of toys, constantly keeping me guessing and on my toes. The different sensations caused by different toys can be a very rewarding feeling. My favourite toy is the flogger, it administers a more “stinging” effect as opposed to a “thud” feeling.
I strongly believe that while playing that constant praise is necessary. It makes me feel like I can endure so much more from my dom. Not only am I making him so proud of me but it gives me a head rush that makes we want to receive more for both him and for myself.
As the flogger comes down across my ass I feel in initial sting and I cringe, then an amazing warmth travels across the entire area where the nylon fabric has come in contact. I melt into the heat patiently waiting for the next mind blowing lash.